Toys, Tantrums and Pocket Money

A couple of weeks ago I witnessed the worst tantrum in the supermarket that I had ever seen.  It came from my son.  It was over a activity pack that I said he could have if he helped me with the shopping.  Unfortunately Ben did not help me with the shopping.  He began running around the shop.  I had given him two warning before I put him in the trolley and told him we had to put the activity pack back.  He held onto the activity pack with all of his might.  But when we reached the checkout I took it off him.  WOW…… I have never seen anything like it – screaming, kicking, punching, tears.  His face was so red.  He was so angry.  But I couldn’t give it back to him……. could I……NO NO NO?  We got through the checkout, packed the groceries and out to the car and he was still screaming the place down.  By the time we had got home he had calmed down.  But I was shaken!

Last week when we went to the shopping centre I took back up.  Andrew came along to and we had had a long discussion with Ben that we would not be buying any toys.  We had jobs to do.  We once again had tears on our departure because he didn’t get anything but it was nothing compared to the first incident.

I know I spoil Ben…… only child and all.   Not really the best parenting strategy!!  So as a result we are going through detox.  The detox strategy is going to the shops and I am not buying any toys.  It breaks my heart to see him so upset but his behavior is unacceptable.  I do feel guilty because I helped create that behavior.  Mothers guilt!

We now seem to have reached a happy place when visiting the shops.  I have introduced pocket money.  Ben now has pocket money that he receives for completing jobs.  He loves it and is now more interested in collecting gold coins than toys.   So now when we are at the shops he has his pocket money to spend.  If he hasn’t got enough money he is learning that he needs to do some more jobs to earn enough.  His jobs include – feeding the dog, helping to set and clear the table, picking up his toys, collecting the eggs and picking up the dogs toys.  I have been using  You Rule Chores on my iPhone.

jobs app.jpg

We have found it pretty great.  However Ben sometimes plays with it and gives himself extra coins!  I found the application here.   If you don’t already read Li’l Magoolie it is worth a look.

Fingers crossed for no more tantrums!!

my name.jpg

There were (nearly) TEN in the bed!!

sleeping friends1.jpg

sleeping friends.jpgBen’s bed is getting a little crowded.  In his bed there is:

– 3 Kaloo Bunnies.  He has had these since he was a baby.  However it was never the intention he has all three at once.  The plan was for him to have one and the others were back ups if we couldn’t find one of the Bunnies.

– 1 floppy dog called Patch.  My cousin Leanne sent this to him when he was born.  His cousin Tom also had one just the same and whatever Tom does Ben does too!

– 1 Baby.  I am sure a hard plastic baby must get in the way!!

– 1 cat called Marmalade.  This was my grandmothers.

– 1 Humpty.  I am not even sure when Humpty made his way into the bed.

– 1 Easter Bunny named Max.  His Aunty Tam and Uncle Phil gave this to him on the weekend ….. and of course it made its way into the bed.

– 1 Beautiful boy…. Ben.

Every night there is a roll call to see everyone is in bed.  Some nights I go to tuck him in and he has his arms stretched out hugging all of his friends.  It is one of those parent moments that pulls on those heart strings….. sweet dreams xoxo

my name.jpg

Screen shot 2011-03-12 at 3.13.38 PM.png

Linking up with  – Life made lovely Monday xo